Why is it Important to Know the Grieving Process and Why We Should Grief
Many people think that grieving is a single moment in which we feel sad after a cremation process or a burial ceremony.
While they are not entirely in the wrong, grieving is more than that
So you feel sad after you see your loved ones depart this world for a better place. Many people call a grieving moment, a moment when you should be left alone to think about how wonderful the deceased is. They are right to some extent, but people who understand human’s psychology will say that the grieving process is more than just feeling sad after getting the bad news handed over to you.
Truth is, grieving is a long and hefty process. Contrary to what many people told me, we definitely need to grief to be able to continue with our lives. While the length of the grief is debatable (many people got many different ways to grief. Some can last longer than the other), the truth still stands that grieving is sorely needed.
Why is grieving needed?
Because it helps us cope with our loses, that is for sure. There are many things in life that can bring something unwanted to us, and when there is nothing else we can do about it, the only thing left is to grief. To grief is to let all of those emotions, particularly those that hurt us, out. We all know what can happen if one is to suppress their true feelings or true emotions. Suppressing your emotions can lead to many ranges of problems, with a multiple personality disorder being one of them.
In short, grieving keeps us healthy. As long as you stayed within the ordinary grieving length (even when it is a long moment), you are fine if you grief. On the other hand, if your grieving takes a whole lot of your life, then it is not a healthy one.
Grieving got its own stages, too
First, you will know that the moment of shock and disbelieve will come first. We all know that phase in which you cannot believe what was going on with the real world. We believe that he or she is still alive, all smiling and healthy. That is probably the reason why we got put into a shock when the bomb does drop. Getting shocked is a natural thing to do when you are grieving.
When you are finished disbelieving the truth, you will come to a realization that you need to face a loss that might not be replaceable. There are many things that a person can do in this stage, with withdrawing himself from the world is one of those actions. Insomnia and hallucinations can also strike at this moment, especially if the loss hit you that hard. Some people also handle this moment with a smile on their face (not the malicious one, mind you), which indicates that they might be stronger than they are. This is the stage that will probably take nearly all of your grieving moment.
Lastly, we got the acceptance stage. When you are holding your loved ones’ funeral urn this is the final moment you need to go through before you spread their ashes on the sea. Accepting your loss should be the final stage. This shows that you are able to go on with your life without the presence of those who are gone. In stories and many other kinds of entertainment, this is mostly the place where the gut-puncher and the tearjerker will take place, no matter if the acceptance process comes from having to throw away the cremation ash or letting your loved ones be buried underneath the ground.